Have you noticed such a phenomenon: a child who was originally very sensible, polite and very disciplined after entering the kindergarten, he was "contaminated" with many bad habits, such as beating people, swearing, spitting, etc.
I encountered such a problem. One day, my son was playing with building blocks at home and suddenly shouted loudly: I'm cao!
When playing downstairs, a few children also whispered a few swear words from time to time.
Parents are very annoyed when they hear their children swear words and will definitely stop them immediately. Some children will not say anything after being corrected a few times, while others will not correct them again. Why is this?
Children's swearing is actually a small episode in the process of language development. This is related to their language development model. In fact, parents can solve it by using some small techniques.
Why do children swear?
Swear words are not developed by children themselves, nor are they having problems with their children's character. Children who swear words are generally due to the following two reasons:
1. Imitation of others
Imitation is a very important learning method for children in the early childhood stage. When children swear, they must hear others swear words, and the behavior of swear words has not been stopped, or some effect has been achieved, such as people around them do not respond, laugh, and echo swear words.
Once I went to a friend's house to play. My friend's husband was dealing with work. He encountered some difficult problems and subconsciously said a swear word. My friend's son immediately imitated his father and said the same swear word. In the following time, the child repeatedly used this swear word in different games.
There are more than thirty children in the kindergarten, and there are always one or two children who say something swear first, and other children will learn immediately.
shows how strong the child’s ability to “copy and paste” is, but with the child’s cognitive level, they do not know what the word is “sweary” and what it means.
2, Express emotions
3 Although children do not understand the literal meaning of swear words, they can correspond to "swear words" and "emotions", and then use swear words to express emotions the next time similar emotions appear.
For example, when adults say the swear words "I cao", they mostly blurt out in emotional states such as anger, excitement, collapse, and surprise, and children will keenly capture the usage of this word.
So, next time you have similar emotions, you will use them directly.
I recalled the emotional scene of my son saying swear words. He made a cool building block shape and was very excited and happy. The reason analysis of
is very important. It is the basis for correcting children's swear words.
How to help children get rid of their habit of swearing
When a child swears a swearing word in public, parents must be very embarrassed. Good and civilized language habits are the key learning goals for children in kindergarten.
I suggest that you can follow the following 3 steps to solve the problem:
1. Parents correct themselves and do not make mistake demonstrations
If you imitate your own family and say swear words, then parents start with self-correction first and do not set up wrong language demonstrations for their children.
In addition, we should demonstrate a correct operation to the child, that is, when you accidentally say swear words, immediately apologize: Oh, I'm sorry, I shouldn't say that.
Speaking of this, I remember a parent’s consultation case I saw before. His child often swears, and stopped them many times, but they were invalid. He still started to speak out. The parents themselves analyzed the reason why the child swears because parents often swear, and then the child learned it when he heard it.
This parent already knows that the fundamental reason why children swear is to imitate adults, but still asks us how to prevent children from swearing.
The real needs of parents is: How to change the behavior of children's swearing without changing my swearing?
will only make requirements and will not be role models. Such an educational method is incompetent.
2. Find the right word and replace swear words
We analyzed above that children say swear words to express current emotions. Therefore, we need to find a suitable word to help children complete their needs to express emotions. Simply stop them and prevent them from swearing words cannot solve the needs of children.
I will share my experience here. After my son swears last time, I didn’t stop him angrily, but said to him calmly: “You are very happy and excited now, right? But the word cao is not nice. I have a particularly suitable word to express your mood, called: Oh my God, you can say: My Days, , I am so happy!, come and try it?”
The son followed suit and said it again. After saying it, I also laughed and said: Oh my God, your style is so cool!
3, supervise each other with children
We can also supervise each other with children. When we hear someone swearing, point it out, at this time, we will say appropriately and deliberately a few times, and the child will immediately say: You just swearing, you should say my god
Then we sincerely thank him: Ah, sorry, fortunately you reminded me in time, thank you.
let the child play the role of "supervisor". Before he knew it, he himself internalized the process of "using my god" instead of swearing.
If the child is used to swearing, can he slap his mouth once and then? Let your child remember the pain and he will not swear. It may not be necessary. If you have tried this method to completely correct it, you can also leave a message in the comment area to share your experience.
